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“Busy is a Lack of Priorities”

OMG, this time of year has me channeling my inner Kelly Ripa. Between holiday prep and socializing, end-of-year stuff, work and family obligations, I’m wondering if/how I can “be even more amazing.”

I feel stretched to keep all the balls in the air and I figure you do too, so I went looking for advice on time management, work/life balance, and basic survival.

The following post appeared on’s Working Moms section, although the tips are relevant for anyone.

Question: How Do You Achieve Work-Life Balance?
Answer: Finding work life balance begins with learning to say no. Stop doing everything. Say no to every task that is non-essential. The way you define your priorities is by saying yes to some things and no to others.That means when your daughter is anxious at bedtime because of a scary movie she saw or goes through a bout of separation anxiety at daycare dropoff, you take an extra 15 minutes to cuddle and reassure her before leaving the room. But when it’s your busiest time at work and you’re asked to chaperone a field trip, inquire if you can help at school later in the year.
If your boss drops a mammoth, urgent project in your lap, ask which other tasks he’d like you to delay in order to get it done on time. Don’t pull multiple all-nighters to finish the extra work on top of your regular job.
And please, lower your standards so you’re not killing yourself to have a perfectly clean home, lavishly planned parties, from-scratch cookies for soccer practice or whatever else is important to other people and not to you. You’ll never find work life balance unless you let some things go.You simply cannot be everything to everybody.
It’s up to you to draw the line when you see it’s hurting your children or your own peace of mind. A good test is to ask whether the question you’re wrestling with will matter in 20 years. Generally speaking, the time you spend with family or on genuinely career-building projects will pass muster — but the extra three emails you can answer at 11 p.m. will fail.

These lessons remind me of a quote from Timothy Ferriss’ The 4-Hour Workweek: “Busy is a lack of priorities.” Translation: Reclaim control of your To Do list. You decide what gets your attention. Give yourself permission to say “I’ll get to that right after I throw a birthday party for the dog… or never.” This is usually the conclusion I reach after a couple days of trying to be Kelly Ripa. Those Electrolux commercials make me crazy.

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